Ranting post....don't read if you don't want to

Hubby and I were having a pretty interesting conversation about how society and media have really screwed up people's views of beauty (well, no surprise there). Specifically that unless you're an Olivia Wild/Megan Fox or Brad Pitt/Robert Downey Jr, then you're not attractive at all.

.....really?

No wonder guys and girls have such self-esteem issues. They're being compared to extremely photoshopped images.

It's incredibly sad because it also means that anyone is "less than drop-dead hott" is looked over as being unattractive....simply because they don't look exactly like a supermodel of either sex.

Well, in Real Life, most people don't look like that. Most people can't look like that. And there are very different types of beauty. A girl or guy can be incredibly cute without being hot. And generally speaking, what matters is not only what a person looks like but also who they are, how they act, how they treat someone else.

I'd sooner date an "okay" guy who was an amazing man, than an incredibly "hot" guy who was chauvinistic (insert your choice of word here).

It amazes me how media has literally trained our generation to ignore a whole person and just focus on looks (I'm talking to both guys and girls here, btw). If a girl is an amazing woman, but also no Megan Fox, then it's immediately a check-off the list because she might have a few extra pounds around the waist. If a guy is average or better than average but no Robert Downey Jr, then the girl passes on by because she can get someone "better" (or rather, hotter).

Which also leads into something else that's been bugging me. Feminism (Now don't get angry with me yet, I'm a very strong Feminist, no doubt about it, so hear me out). Not the hardcore Feminism, but the barely there permeated into our society in very specific ways feminism. (See the trick with the capitol letter?)

The kind of feminism that convinces any girl who's not a small boyish looking girl or BBW (and even then, still manage to), that A. She can sleep with whomever she wants because any guy would obviously want her and B. that any guy who's trying to be friends with her is just doing that because he wants in her pants.

Girls, get over yourselves.

Sure, there are some guys like that (I've met a few) but guess what, most (if not all) guys have a specific Type of girl they like and find attractive. Not every guy is attracted to thin girls just like not every guy is attracted to curvy girls. Attraction, surprisingly, is varied.

Just because you happen to have boobs and a vagina does not mean any guy will sleep with you if you just smile.  And the guys who might generally aren't the kind you want any relationship with.

Honestly, I think it's a sign of maturity level. The realization that Real Life is different than what you always wanted. It's not settling, it's realizing that that idea is just that, an idea. Real people have flaws and won't be perfect in anything. The key is to look at the whole person, not just the physical aspects of someone only.

It's the way it is with everything, honestly. You have to look at the whole picture, at every aspect, every angle to get a full good viewpoint. Not just focus solely on one thing. That's not healthy and tends to lead to unhealthy views.

Bit of a ranting post, sorry about that. I hope my points make sense, though. It's been something that's been frustrating me over a long amount of time because I see people act like this over and over and over again....and it's self-centered and immature. Unfortunately, society and media just keeps reinforcing it. So what can you do?